Hey guys! I have been cooped up in my office for 2 months now, working away on University essays to complete my second year. After finally finishing, I am officially back to blogging (and boy have I missed it)! Over the last 2 months, I have barely seen the outside of these four walls, let alone the sunshine outside – which disappointingly has now left our shores.
Being confined to such a small space has meant that it’s difficult to keep negativity at bay, especially as both myself and my other half are between job and scraping through with pennies to our name. So I thought I’d talk about how to stay positive even when your life has taken a difficult turn. Because as the famous Joel Osteen said “Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.”
1. First of all, the best way to avoid negativity is to change your mindset.
“In order to carry a positive action, we must first develop a positive vision”
There are many things that you have the power to change, and equally as many that you cannot, knowing the difference and changing how you approach each is vital in creating a positive life. So when you start to feel negative about a situation, stop and think: Can I change this situation? If not then what are the positive things about this which I can learn from?
2. Avoid presumption and attempts at mind reading. After all, unless you actually ask, how are you going to know what is going on inside that head of theirs? Just because someone is looking sad doesn’t mean they actually are sad, and just because someone is smiling and acting confident doesn’t mean they are, so assess the situation properly before you start making comments or getting upset. You may have missed the point!
3. Concentrate on today! There are a wealth of quotes about worrying about tomorrow, living in the past, and all things past/ future and how this can negatively impact your life. Not only does it create negativity, but it also means you’re wasting your time thinking about the future or reminiscing about the past rather than getting things done! I’m not saying don’t have a plan, for most situations, spending time planning is a good thing, as long as it’s a productive plan, not just a series of concerns which makes you worry about your future. I spent a day deciding where I wanted to be when I finished Uni (which is next June!) and now I’m working towards that goal little by little every single day. Focusing on progress transforms negativity into motivation.
4. Remove negative influences from your life. The more negativity you surround yourself with, the more susceptible you will be to absorbing that negativity. So try to remove it, whether that’s a negative environment, such as a home office which you hate the look of, or someone you see every day who just kills any good mood you had. Start by changing it, redecorate your office with your favourite colours and styles, or have a chat with that negative someone and let them know how you feel about their negativity.
5. Honestly evaluate your life. Are you negative all the time because of a situation you’re in, or do you simply find the negative points of any situation, simply because the outcome is less than perfect? If it’s a situation, the likelihood is that the situation will pass, and you simply need to persevere or remove yourself from the situation. I learnt from watching the first few episodes of Luther, that if things aren’t going your way, change the state of play. However, if you are simply a pessimist and a negative person in general, stop yourself every time you start to feel negative about a situation and deliberately look for the positives, or ask someone close to you to call you out on it every time you get a negative face on.
So there you have it, my top tips for avoiding negativity. Hopefully these tips will help you to live a more positive life! Let me know if you have any more tips to avoid negativity – I’d love to here what you have to say!